Burn Bright, Not Out: How Buddhist Leaders Can Avoid Burnout

Burn Bright, Not Out: How Buddhist Leaders Can Avoid Burnout

TLDR: Burnout is common among Buddhist youth leaders but isn’t a badge of honour. Learn practical steps to serve others without neglecting yourself.

“I’ve lost the joy of service. I’m just going through the motions,” a youth leader confided during a routine welfare check. Sadly, this sentiment is all too common in the Buddhist youth community.

Juggling school, studies, work, and co-curricular activities put immense demands on youth leaders. When these responsibilities expand due to the enthusiasm of seniors, leaders can quickly burn out. The spark of joy dims, replaced by a “just get it done” mindset.

“Our youth group thrives on burnout. When a leader burns out, it’s seen as proof they’ve served to their limit—a form of selflessness,” one youth leader remarked, eyes heavy with fatigue.

This stark reflection prompted me to write this piece—a small message of support for struggling youth leaders.

Being a Buddhist youth leader is both rewarding and challenging. However, burnout should not be seen as a badge of honour. Here are 3 ways to maintain balance and thrive. May these reflections support your journey.

The Importance of Self-Care

Burn Bright, Not Out: How Buddhist Leaders Can Avoid Burnout

Leadership can be overwhelming, but taking care of yourself is crucial—not just for your well-being but for the effectiveness of your service.

The Buddha reminds us in the Sedaka Sutta: “One who takes care of oneself takes care of others. One who takes care of others takes care of oneself.” By prioritising your well-being, you can better support your members and lead by example. 

We cannot pour from an empty cup.

Reducing your workload isn’t selfish—it’s responsible. Delegation may seem inefficient at first. But managing everything yourself creates bottlenecks and makes breaks impossible. Reflect on tasks you can share, even if it feels uncomfortable at the start.

It’s tempting to think, “I’m being selfish by doing less.” However, delivering half-hearted service is far worse. Members join youth groups seeking peace, not to encounter stressed-out leaders from the hungry ghost realm. Instead of feeling your mettā, they may feel your burnout.

So how to self-care?

Self-care can involve practices such as meditation, exercise, and spending time in nature. 

For example, if you’re mentally fatigued, a 10-minute mindfulness session can help you regain focus. Similarly, regular exercise such as yoga can reduce stress and strengthen your body. These moments to yourself help to realign to why you started in the first place.

Taking breaks isn’t indulgent; it’s restorative. You’ll return to your role with fresh energy and positivity. Don’t hesitate to seek help from mentors, peers, or counsellors. 

Even the Buddha sought guidance from teachers before attaining enlightenment. Seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Taking Stock of Your Progress

Reflecting on your journey helps you recognise growth and stay motivated.

Celebrate your successes and the obstacles you’ve overcome. For example, think about a challenging event you organised. How did you tackle it with persistence and teamwork?

Many of us downplay our efforts, saying things like, “I only did a little.” Learning to accept compliments is a forgotten art in Buddhist circles. Try saying, “Thank you for noticing. I did my best, and I’m glad it was helpful.”

Progress on the Dhamma path also brings joy. Seeing how you’ve grown strengthens your faith in the Buddha’s teachings. What once irritated you no longer does. Avoid measuring success only by task completion. Instead, reflect on the deeper fruits of practice.

Seeing our progress also brings confidence that the Buddha’s path is Opanayiko “Leading one inwards/onwards”.

It is hard for us to lead when we don’t see the fruits of practice and only see the fruits of our excellent planning.

The Role of Spiritual Friendships

Burn Bright, Not Out: How Buddhist Leaders Can Avoid Burnout

Spiritual friendships (kalyāṇamitta) are vital for sustaining Buddhist youth leaders.

Many committees focus solely on logistics, forgetting to check in with each other on a personal level. “What’s the agenda?” takes precedence over “How are you?” This misses an opportunity to deepen connections and support one another as Dhamma practitioners. 

I sometimes, do forget this principle, but thankfully I have friends who remind me to ask, ‘How are you?’

Building bonds with fellow volunteers who offer honest and compassionate feedback nurtures personal growth. Attend Dhamma talks or charity events outside your group. This will broaden your perspectives and foster meaningful friendships.

Ask yourself: Are you cultivating spiritual friendships? Do you have people in your circle who can help you navigate the complexities of leadership with kindness and clarity? Nurturing such relationships can make your journey more fulfilling and balanced.

“Admirable friendship, admirable companionship, admirable camaraderie is actually the whole of the holy life.” The Buddha corrected Ananda who said spiritual friendship was only half of the holy life.

Develop your personal practice

Burn Bright, Not Out: How Buddhist Leaders Can Avoid Burnout

Volunteering is a chance to uphold the Triple Gem, share the Dhamma, and deepen your practice. However, without personal and Dhamma growth, leadership can feel hollow—like being a glorified event planner.

Going for regular Dhamma talks, Dhamma discussions, guided meditation or listening to Spotify Dhamma talks can help. They can provide perspectives on the practice. 

Quiet moments for reflection allow the teachings to take root. A strong foundation in the Dhamma equips you to navigate the eight worldly winds—success and failure, pleasure and pain, praise and blame, gain and loss.

Leadership without practice can leave you vulnerable. A cautionary tale: A youth group leader, overwhelmed by events (e.g. Vesak, pujas, charity work), neglected his practice. When life’s challenges hit, he had no Dhamma or a support network to lean on. So, he eventually converted to another religion. This shocked his youth group as they lost their central leader and eventually led to the group’s demise.

In addition, working with people of diverse personalities and motivations can cause conflicts. Staying grounded in the Dhamma is essential to navigate these challenges. 

Focus on practising the paramitas and upholding the precepts, even in difficult situations. Seeking forgiveness for intentional or unintentional transgressions in thought, speech, and action can bring clarity and humility to your leadership.

Ground yourself in the practice first, so you can better guide others.

Having covered 3 strategies to help you navigate the struggles, here are some quick tips for maintaining a balance between your welfare and others.

Tips for Maintaining Balance

Here are some practical tips to help you sustain balance as a Buddhist youth leader:

  • Knowing when to say no: It is important to say no when you are near your limit or if a task doesn’t align with the organisation’s vision/mission. When you say no to something, you are saying yes to personal space & practice.
  • Prioritise personal practice: Dedicate time for meditation, reading, and other practices that nourish your connection to the Dhamma.
  • Delegate tasks: Share responsibilities with other group members. This prevents you from being overwhelmed and lets you focus on areas where you can make the most impact.
  • Take breaks: Step away when needed to recharge, whether through mindfulness, a walk in nature, or simply resting.
  • Seek help: Don’t hesitate to reach out to mentors or peers for guidance and support.
  • Foster spiritual friendships: Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who inspire and challenge you to grow.
  • Embrace simplicity: Instead of asking, “What more can we do?” ask, “What can we do without?” Focusing on fewer, intentional activities can reduce stress. It can also boost the group’s overall well-being.

Conclusion

Managing burnout requires mindful attention to self-care, personal practice, and relationships.

By taking breaks, reflecting on your progress, nurturing spiritual friendships, and balancing your commitments, you can lead with compassion and resilience. Maintaining this balance inspires others and allows you to serve the Dhamma with joy and purpose.

WW: 🚩Signs you are stuck in the rat race

WW: 🚩Signs you are stuck in the rat race

Wholesome Wednesdays (WW): Bringing you curated positive content on Wednesdays to uplift your hump day.

“That’s just the way it is” Have you been uttering that to yourself lately as you knock out from work? You might be stuck in the rat race. Recognising our “stuck-ness” is the first step into taking active directions to change our life’s trajectory. The year has ended. What will you do in 2023? Here are two sharings to get you in a better state for 2023.

1. “That’s just the way things are”: Signs you are in a rat race
2. The curse of comparison

That’s just the way things are”: Signs you are in a rat race

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What’s going on here & Why we like it

Jacked Aecus, a personal development coach, shares 7 signs to identify if we are stuck in a rat race. What’s so bad about being in a rat race? It ultimately tires/burns you out with no actual, tangible reward. It is a hamster wheel that brings you nowhere. We like this tweet thread for the frankness and actionability it brings to our lives.

Use this post to check in on your 2022 and how you wish to shape your 2023 going forward. Will you still be stuck? Or will you choose some wise ways to improve the parts of your life that have been slipping away?

“Are you constantly checking your phone or taking calls from colleagues?”

Wise Steps

  1. Looking at these 7 signs, how many can you identify with? What are some ways you can improve on them for 2023?

Check out the post here or below!

7 warning signs that tell you are stuck in the rat race@JackedAecus #Stocksify

Posted by Stocksify on Thursday, September 1, 2022

The curse of comparison

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What’s going on here & why we like it

Ravi Tandon, a contributor on LinkedIn , shares his contemplations on the urge of comparison and tactics towards countering our endless need to compare. He contemplates using the idea of “The Buddha Mind” to approach the world. We love how he distills facts about work life and our comparisons into 10 salient points. For example, by shining a light on the perspective of time through taking the entire span of time since the Big Bang. Ravi reminds us that we are little specks of time. Just 3 seconds in the grand scheme of things.

We found many Dhammic elements in this article that is worthwhile reading (while browsing LinkedIn!)

“Run your race. Better still, live your race, and you shall be more fulfilled.”

Wise Steps

  1. What race are you running now? Is it for yourself/passions or for your ego?
  2. Stand on the shoulders of giants by reading more in 2023; to learn from others’ experiences.

Read it here

#WW:  👋 The value of knowing when to quit

#WW: 👋 The value of knowing when to quit

Wholesome Wednesdays (WW): Bringing you curated positive content on Wednesdays to uplift your hump day.

We often prioritise winning especially in Singapore. How we know when to quit? What if we are not lazy but burnt out? These are great times to check in and answer ourselves honestly

1. How to figure out when to quit? This framework might just help you

2. You might be the 75% of adults who face some form of burn out. Here are 6 signs to check on

How to figure out when to quit? This framework might just help you

What’s going on here & why we like it

Ali Abdaal, a youtuber who focuses on self-growth and self-education shares about the value of quitting and why sometimes it is better to give up than to continue. He shares on Stephen’s quitting framework for us to get a grip on our lives and avoid the pitfalls of following a past commitment that is no longer relevant.

“The payoff (going to medical school) wasn’t worth it”

Wise Steps

Run through this framework on different aspects of your life to check in on whether you should quit on certain projects that you have dragged on…and have made you a grumpy person

Watch the tiktok below!

You might be the 75% of adults who face some form of burnout. Here are 6 signs to check on

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What’s going on here & why we like it

Psych2go, a youtube channel focusing on mental health, shares 6 signs to check on to determine if you are lazy or plain burnout. Some of the signs are: depersonalisation (not feeling like yourself), demotivation (you used to be motivated), and you find difficulty finding passion. We like this video because it allows viewers to discern between lazy mind states and a clear need for intervention in mental well-being (burnout)

“Burnout develops in stages…it doesn’t happen overnight. There are 5 stages of burnout.”

Wise Steps

Do a check-in! See if you can spot any of the 6 signs of burnout and start taking active action by reaching out for professional help.

Enjoy the video below!